I appreciate reading your essay, Deb. Everything around them, from the time they were born, taught them the #truth of their beliefs; reinforced those ideas. It is likely they never had someone, much less several someones of color around them to speak to their hearts and change their minds.
Inclusivity - I think that one way to change hearts and minds is with meaningful and long-lasting relationship-building with people different from you, on the same level as you. Think Brown versus Board of Ed. One way of many.
What changed your mind and heart? You did not say.